When I simplify the condition of my mental and emotional wellbeing the starting point is always “what have I been giving my time and attention to”. There are times when I feel irritated and unpleasant for no discernible reason but when I retrace my steps I’d notice that I had spent consecutive hours on Instagram, conjured up a fake argument in my head and been singing along to music talking about .223s, 380s and G23s, like okay John Wick. As futile or innocent as social media, music or thinking may seem, when it’s without purpose or intent and not based in love, faith or truth, it does not add anything profitable to me, my life, my purpose or my pillars of health. This may seem like a strict regimen to live by but really it sheds light on how what you see, hear, say and entertain has the capacity to impact your feelings, actions, development and character. You ever get a boyfriend and accidentally start using his slang, now you calling people “luva” and out Virginia stamping it on your “mova” lol, and it’s not because you’re intentionally trying to be like him, it’s simply a byproduct of your exposure to him. What you hear, see, say and entertain influences you more than you know. Proverbs 4:23 says,
“Guard your heart above all else, for it determines the course of your life.”
Where you want to be in 5 years, 5 months, or simply how you want to feel in the next 5 minutes will be a direct result of what your heart is full of and what’s in your heart will have originated from your words, thoughts and exposure. Philippians 4:8 says, “I’d say you’ll do best by filling your minds and meditating on things true, noble, reputable, authentic, compelling, gracious—the best, not the worst; the beautiful, not the ugly; things to praise, not things to curse.” If it isn’t helping you grow, reaffirming your faith or bringing joy, peace and love into your life then why spend mental currency on it? Guard your gates — feed and foster what you want to bloom, starve and sever what you don’t want to take root.